Physican’s Life Coach, Raji Menon:
Do any of these describe your reality?
As the Physican’s Life Coach, I help stressed, burning out physicians rekindle their passion for the work and make space for more joy in life. Do any of these sound familiar to you?
- There’s too much work to do and too little time. It’s stressful.
Because of the overwhelm, you find yourself late everywhere.
You are expected to be in three different places at once.
Everyone has greater expectations from you.
It is difficult to serve patients well, with the dwindling resources available.
You have clutter in your life: physical, mental, emotional!
You have no time for family/exercise/hobbies/socializing.
You are unable to maintain a regular routine in your life – for food, exercise and leisure.
You have daunting relationship issues – with colleagues/spouse/partner/children.
You worry about saving enough for the future especially for retirement.
You feel stuck in your situation, and feel helpless to change it.
Would this describe the ideal physician career?
Most physicians would say that they can never get away from the fact that their lives will always be busy. There will be plenty of work to do. However, they wish they had:
- less stress, more peace
- more control over how they work
- more time to spend with family/friends/hobbies/exercise, and fun parts of life
- the ability to deal with stressful situations in a calm, peaceful manner
- the ability to complete paper-work in a timely fashion
- a batter handle on their finances
- a good plan for the future and early retirement
Here’s what the dream life would include for many doctors:
- To pay off her/his debts
- To have a job he/she enjoys
- To afford a comfortable life-style
- To have a relationship that she/he cherishes
- The perfect family (may include children – or pets – or none)
- Holidays in exotic places
- Time to pursue interests
- Fun time with friends
- Enough money for his/her needs
- To retire early, with enough money in the bank
So, what’s stopping you from changing things. From getting rid of stress and adding more happiness in your work and life?
Changing things can be a big challenge. Here are the top things I’ve found that keep physicians stuck and unhappy:
First, a Lack of Awareness. Lack of awareness of the significance, symptoms and signs of Burnout, keep physicians from recognizing it in the first place.
Secondly, there is pride. Pride prevents physicians from admitting/acknowledging that they could be vulnerable to /capable of burning out. Pride keeps them from acknowledging the symptoms and signs, when they do notice them. Pride keeps them from seeking help.
And finally, fear.
- Fear that they will look weak if they admit to or appear to have any problems.
- Fear that it takes a lot of work to fix things – e.g. fear that coaching involves a lot of ‘homework’ or exercises – one more thing to do, for which they have no time.
- Fear that fixing things means doing less work or giving up a part of their income.
- Fear that they will lose their jobs if they go for counseling or take any time off!
So what’s it going to take to fix things before a meltdown? What can you do?
Change is hard, but necessary if you seriously need to improve things. Here’s what you need to do:
- Sit up and take stock: Unless you acknowledge the fact that you are human and capable of burning out, you will never be able to prevent it, recognize it when it happens, or pick yourself up. As soon as you admit your vulnerability – at least to yourself, you will want to make a difference, and protect yourself.
- Define your priorities very clearly: Then, You can decide how much of your time and energy you want to spend on each of those priorities. You will also be able to let things go – things that you realize are not as important.
- Be willing to ask for Help! Remember, there are others who have walked your path before, and can offer a word of advice. There are also various professionals who can help you.
A Life Coach would be able to walk with you, help you design your own solutions without making judgements, or pushing their own opinions on you.
A Life Coach offers Confidentiality, Structure and Accountability, to help you make the changes you want to make.
What I Do
Hi, I’m Dr. Raji Menon, the physician’s life coach. I help physicians examine their career/life, make some invasive changes, and come out rekindled in all areas of their lives: attain inner peace, better health, more time off for themselves and their families, and more efficient practices that they love and continue to enjoy.
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